I haven’t done one of my inspirational posts in quite a bit, and there’s no time like the present! I read a small story a few weeks back, and it was so powerful. Really made me re-think the way I was feeling about a few different current situations at the time.
I feel like my entire life I’ve been looking over the fence and feeling envious of other people. Always thinking someone else was prettier, richer, more talented, skinnier, or just happier. Always assuming their grass was greener. I continually looked at others and felt so jealous of things they got to do or experience and wondered why I didn’t have any of that going on in my life. Though the things I’ve been jealous of have changed as I’ve gotten older, I still find myself feeling guilty at how jealous I feel of certain people in my life. While I am happy for my friends and siblings getting married or maintaining long-term relationships, I feel jealous because I haven’t found my husband yet. Even though I am happy for my friends and siblings that are having babies or working on having them, I find myself feeling jealous again because what I’ve always wanted more than anything is to be a mom. I look at thin women and feel jealous of the fact that they are able to wear whatever they want, and do more things without having their weight hold them back.
Admittedly, it can be extremely difficult to watch others get the things you want. I think that’s fair to apply to every single living person on the planet. What reading the short story made me realize is that it doesn’t pay to be envious of others because our lives are not impacted by theirs in any way and vice versa. Our story is written in a different way, and we all come into things in our own time.
The story goes like this:
An elephant and a dog became pregnant at the same time. Three months down the line, the dog gave birth to six puppies. Six months later the dog was pregnant again, and nine months on it gave birth to another dozen puppies. The pattern continued.
On the eighteenth month the dog approached the elephant questioning, “Are you sure that you are pregnant? We became pregnant on the same date, I have given birth three times to a dozen puppies and they are now grown to become big dogs, yet you are still pregnant. What’s going on?”. The elephant replied, “There is something I want you to understand. What I am carrying is not a puppy, but an elephant. I only give birth to one in two years. When my baby hits the ground, the earth feels it. When my baby crosses the road, human beings stop and watch in admiration, what I carry draws attention. So what I’m carrying is mighty and great.”
Don’t lose faith when you see others receive answers to their prayers. Don’t be envious of others testimony. If you haven’t received your own blessings, don’t despair. Say to yourself, “My time is coming, and when it hits the surface of the earth, people shall yield in admiration.”
Amazing right?! It just changed the way I looked at things and put my mind and heart so much more at ease. I’m not saying I never feel envy anymore, but I’m trying to be much better with it. I know in my heart that my time is coming. My husband is out there, my time to be a mother will come, my prayers will be answered and my blessings will come. The things I dream of will come to fruition and I will have the life I imagine for myself.
We cannot always look at the lives of others because while it may seem like they are getting everything they want, their life may not be as wonderful as it looks from the outside. We all struggle with guilt, doubt, fear and jealousy. We all have demons and vices. We all have things we want, but constantly feel like we never achieve or receive. We are all human. It is better to feel joy for those around us that have wonderful things happen to them. They don’t receive at our expense, their life is just laying out for them the way it is meant to.
Remember, you are blessed in more ways than you can see. As humans, we are selfish and always wanting of more, not realizing how grateful we should be at what we already have. I too am guilty of this. But also remember that your time is coming and we need to stop feeling sorry for ourselves while looking in at others.
Believe it in your heart. Your time is coming.
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